My secret to surviving Divorce.

Divorce is NOT an easy thing to go through. I remember it all so vividly, especially the pain. I didn’t know how to act or feel, so I allowed it to consume me.

I remember putting myself through therapy, digging myself into self help books, drew near to God, and stayed close to people who were praying for me. I did everything I could to do to overcome this pain.

Sadly, Divorce got the best of me! I fell into depression and got desperate. The mind games it was playing on me were unbearable. It will make you feel like a failure, not good enough and so empty! I don’t wish this upon anyone. If you are reading this and are considering Divorce, I truly hope you do everything you can do to fight for your marriage before letting go.

It took me a year to finally let go and move on, but I still needed deep healing..

1. Set your mind on things above. I had renew my mind. I had to quit listening to the lies of the enemy that replayed in my head. The mistakes, failures and what it could have been. I had to start training my mind and thoughts again to think of only good things. My first bible verse I ever had to learn in missionettes came to mind, Philippians 4:8 (think only whatever is lovely!!) Acknowledge the victories in your life and everything else going right. (small or big)

2. Forgive yourself and your ex. You owe it to yourself to forgive. Forgiveness is key, it sets you free from bondage. That to me is a gift that no one can take away.

3. Don’t give up. Don’t just go through it, GROW through it!! That darkness your feeling has a story and believe it or not, God wants to restore every ounce of it. How you handle your behavior in this season is crucial. I failed time and time again and fell short but I got right back up. I didn’t always make the best decisions through my season of healing from divorce. Regretfully, I didn’t always respect myself either. Someone once told me “If you were to take a road trip with your children, would you go in an unsafe bucket or would you choose a reliable car that was safe for you and your kids?” Take a wild guess in what my actions chose? I chose the unsafe one, which added a few more years to my healing. You are probably wondering..”Girl, what were you thinking? I know how much you love those kids.” You see, when you become diatracted or dissobedient to your calling, God allows you to do your own will. However, he’s a God of grace and is right there where you left off to help you back up.

4. Love yourself. Even at your worst!! You are beautifully and wonderfully made. You have no idea how important it is to love yourself whole heartedly. When you hold yourself in high esteem, you’re most likely to choose things that nurture your well-being and serve you well. If you loved yourself that much, you‘d never allow yourself to get hurt again.

5. Trust the timing of your life. You have complete access to this new life, trust the process. I had to remind myself to not rush and take it one day at a time. Just because homegirl already found love after Divorce, doesn’t mean it’s your turn. If you were to get what you wanted immediately, would it really be meaningful to you? Probably not. So, don’t miss out on the self love and growth opportunities that are along the way. Your story isn’t over. I know mine has just gotten started.
   

It’s been 5 years since my Divorce and in these short amount of years, I learned things about myself that I could never imagine. I closed doors to childhood pain and trauma. I learned how to thrive on my own. I was able to let go of bitterness and resentment. I was able to flourish in my business as an Artist. And most importantly I was able to break chains and cycles.

I truly believe God wants to heal every part of you and I. He’s making that broken thing beautiful. Stay focused and believe in yourself. Nothing good comes easy.

With Big Big love, Angelica Marie

Isaiah 43:19

For I am about to do something NEW.

See, I have already begun! Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the wilderness. I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.